One of my favorite asanas in the Bikram Yoga series is Eagle Pose or Garurasana. It can be described as a full body pretzel twist where you wrap your arms together and wrap your legs over each other until one ankle is wrapped around the other leg. It is the only posture that opens up the 14 largest joints in the skeletal system. ”Beyond improving flexibility in the hips, knees and ankles, Eagle Pose also supplies fresh blood to the reproductive system and sex organs, plus the kidneys, which increases sexual vitality and helps clear up reproductive problems.”
In the Bikram dialogue there is a phase the yoga teacher prefaces Eagle pose with… “identify your right hand from you left hand and don’t mix them up.” This seems a rather silly instruction, as if the adults in the yoga room do not know the difference between their left and right. Today I thought about this and how it applies to life… identify the people and situations that are healthy, supportive… and don’t mix them up with those that are negative. That is sometimes very difficult to for people to do.
I am sure everyone can identify the people in their life that make them laugh. People that are genuine and kind. We want to be around people that make us feel good, that treat us with respect. But what happens if we have a relative or long time friend, that whenever we are around them, they bring us down, or are downright disrespectful or rude. You may even be in a relationship with someone that does not treat you well or insults you, leaving you feeling inadequate. It may seem just as simple as not mixing up your right hand from you left hand, but quite often other people can cause much discontent within ourselves, and we need to learn how to be aware of this, and perhaps make them aware of their actions. Or perhaps not associate with them.
I find myself a very patient and forgiving person. As a therapist, I spend so much time trying to understand human behavior and emotions. I often find myself perhaps too forgiving of others in my personal life when they are uncaring or even rude. I am very aware that everyone has bad days… or perhaps are suffering from deep emotional pain. But I have to remind myself to not mix up the fact that being in pain is no excuse for not simply being nice to others.
So make a list of the people that make your life better… those that make you laugh. Then make a list of people that constantly disappoint you or even make you cry. Surround yourself with positive, loving people… and don’t allow yourself to get mixed up.